One of my beautiful girls Ellie, just bragging. Doesn’t she look lovely, sometimes she is & sometimes she isn’t. But I always love her, & I always will.
A few weeks ago Ellie was feeling the stress of the TEE, she’s just started year 11 & was seriously considering changing to a vocational coarse. I have always wanted her to be able to do her TEE & go to uni. But after the weekend of tears, I had to question myself, I know we want what’s best for our kids & I know Ellie will be able to do the work if she sets her mind to it. But it comes down to if she wants to & at what stage do we butt out of our kids life & support there decisions, instead of trying to influence them , in the end I did say to her, it really didn’t matter to me & I know that she can do what ever she wants with the best of her ability. Yes I want her to aim high, but they are my expectations, what’s important to Ellie? that’s more important to me, because I really want happy kids. Happy in that they experience the joy in life, the beauty & sheer pleasure of being alive. Life is a gift, lets enjoy it together.
Ellie went off to school feeling much better, & after school she said, I had a much better day I think I’ll do my Tee. She has started to do her home work in the kitchen, we have an old fashion kitchen, a big table & less distractions than her bedroom. When you do your home work on a lap top there are so many distractions like Facebook & games & movies & but in the kitchen Mum’s there to say OMG what are you doing now.
My beautiful daughter looked up at me & said “Mum I’m really happy I’m doing my TEE, because think of all the things I’ll learn that I would never know. I can read a weather map, I know about the world I live in. ” & I thought Ellie you are amazing & you have just learnt one of the most important things in life. Knowledge is good.
Enjoy your children.
love Jane oxo